Law of Forgiveness
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I received this email on Sunday 24th June 2008. It's a great example of using this law. He also mentions the Law of Giving & Receiving. It reminded me of how I lost my business centre and the lessons I have learnt since then. Enjoy.... Susan |
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INTERESTING UPDATE ON A PAST EVENT Hi All
Regular readers and anyone who has delved into the archives on my website, will be aware of my article about forgiveness. Basically, a guy who I had made a director of my company and treated as a real friend, plotted to take over my entire company. He negotiated with all the clients, this was easy as he was operations director and over a period of time got all of them to use a new company that he had set up, agreeing to do the work at $1 an hour, per person, less.
On the chosen day, I awoke to the news. My entire business had been transferred to his new company. It was a new name but effectively the company was exactly the same, all the venues were the same the staff were all the same and the computer programmes etc were all mine.
As you can imagine I felt sick to the core, all I had worked for during my life was at risk. The company conservatively was worth at the time [14 years ago] $500.000, and equating the value, in todays market, I would assume it would be at least $1.5 million. On top of that loss, overnight I had no income. I was devastated.
I went to my lawyer and he, although feeling very sympathetic to my cause, suggested that I just move on. I was ropeable, how on earth could he say just walk away. I did not care how much it cost, I was going to see this guy hung drawn and quartered, and then some. No one was going to take the revenge and hate that I felt towards this guy
Very calmly, but very clearly my lawyer explained two scenarios. My choices were to issue proceedings, that would require $50.000 upfront and then a long protracted legal battle, with him fighting me, effectively with my money, and if he had a lawyer of even minimal skills, he would ensure, that there was nothing to get at the end. I may have morally won the argument but I would not get any money.
The other scenario was to just get on with my life and at the point, where I would have obtained my moral victory, I should have my life back on track and be at least financially stable. In example one I would be having to use almost everything I earned, to finance the court case. Not only would he be enjoying the income generated by my business, but he would also have the pleasure of seeing his actions keep me permanently poor. I was actually, because of my financial situation, forced to leave things as they were, and reluctantly move on.
About 6 years ago I read and studied The Science of Getting Rich, and the course prepared by Rebecca Fine, based on this book, became the turning point in my life. One of the final lessons in that course was on forgiveness, and it said that somewhere in your past, there is always someone who you felt you could never forgive. BOING - Who do you think, leapt to mind? Correct, our dear friend who, at the time I thought had ruined my life. This was a huge call, I still thought about this man daily, and what I wanted to do to him, you can imagine. When I started the course, I said to myself, that I was going to do EXACTLY what I was told, and this was my biggest test.
As I read on, it said that I not only had to forgive him, but I had to write him a letter, telling him of how I forgave him, and how I wish him well and hope that he enjoyed the time he had using my money. It was very explicit in the instructions, that this was not pretend forgiveness, you had to honestly clear out all the venom and hate. My wife and I did this and sent him the letter, at the very minute we posted that letter, we felt elated, for the first time in an eternity, we did not have this negative baggage to carry around with us on a daily basis. We felt great.
We never heard back from him for 6 years, and have never seen him, UNTIL LAST NIGHT. This was going to be the ultimate test, as to whether we had truly forgiven. As I walked into the Hotel lounge, I saw him and smiled, he got up and walked over to me, I extended my hand, and shook his, with a genuine warmth, as if greeting a long lost friend. I felt fantastic, and said How are you doing ****?. I was not prepared for what was to come, but let me tell you it was exactly what I wanted to hear before I forgave him.
His life was in tatters, because of some alleged assaults, that he says were not true, the police took his licence to operate the business away. As the business had no licence holder, the police gave his clients to other companies, so he effectively lost the business. His wife sued him for divorce, over a long period and he lost half of everything he owned, the other half went to his lawyer in costs. It is a shame he did not have my lawyer to advise him. In an almost exact mirror image of the situation he created all those years ago, he found himself.
It was strange standing talking to him, because I felt truly sorry for how his life had turned out. All the things I had learned and read during the years, were bouncing around in my head. Everything was true. The universe is not biased, it deals with situations in an exact way. Although I had forgiven this guy, that was for me, and had no influence over the chain of events that he had created, by his actions.
The lessons to be learned here are many.
I asked **** what he was doing, and he said that he now had a job working for a transport company. I asked him what choices he would make now, if the clock could be turned back, he just smiled.
It is strange, but his vision must have been to own a company, the lesson that he has learned is that you cannot ever take ownership of something you have stolen. As our dear friend Wally says The things you obtain by competition and deceit, are only temporarily yours.
One of the unfortunate things is, that he will never have the vision of improving his situation again, because of the bad experience he had, by doing the wrong thing. His success and wealth thermostat are now firmly set at zero.
During the period, between when I forgave **** and now, the universe has been working overtime to give me everything I desire. I am never disappointed, because I know what I want and do not set targets and goals that take me into uncharted waters. By that I mean, that being at peace with where I am, and who I am, enables me to not need much materialistic add ons. Having been up and down financially and experienced life at both ends of the spectrum, let me tell you, where I am now is great.
Perhaps you should assess where you are, and just improve where you are, instead of aiming for something that you do not really know that you would like or not. From that point of peace and calm, all you true desires will be met.
The happiest people I know, surround themselves with friends and family, do not worry about keeping up with the Joneses, do things on a daily basis that excite or fulfil them, and most of all have the ability to FORGIVE.
Boy am I glad I learned the power of forgiving, and do you know what? I feel genuinely sorry for **** because he has, by his actions reset his whole life, on a future of misery. He will constantly look back at what he has lost and where he was, instead of appreciating where he is.
This is how the Law of Giving and Receiving works Giving is the other side of receiving. Therefore if you wish to receive anything in your life, you first need to give it. It is that simple. If you wish happiness, simply give happiness to the people around you. If you wish love, simply give love. If you wish friendships, joy or abundance simply give it to the people around you and you will receive loads of it.
When you withhold your giving, you are withholding your source of abundance. You are stopping the flow of your own energy and you suffocate. No wonder I felt joyless and dead when I stopped giving. Sounds a little too easy, doesn't it? Where's the catch? The catch is that you have to give without expecting anything in return. Giving for the sake of giving. Only then the flow begins. The intention behind the giving is the most important. The intention has to be for the creation of happiness, harmony, peace and joy, as these are fundamental to life. The reward will be there when you give from your heart and without condition. Giving should be a joyful act, just as a child bringing a flower to his mother. Albert Schweitzer said, "The one who gives is the one that receives most". The easiest way to fulfill your wishes is by supporting others to achieve their wishes. This principle is true to individuals, organizations, businesses and nations. If you wish to be blessed with all the good things in life, learn to give a blessing to all that surrounds you. Even a thought and silent blessing has the power to start the flow of giving and receiving. Start practicing the Law of Giving and Receiving and watch your life become abundant and joyful. Abundance to All Croz from OZ |
